I recently saw an image floating around of a mother sitting with her young son and they are both reading a book. When someone asked how she got her child to read instead of staring at a screen, she simply replied, “Our children will mimic us.” This definitely hit home, especially since I often will read emails or do work on my phone when my son is in his playpen. I realized that children will certainly listen to what we say to a degree, but more importantly, they will watch how we behave and act. Actions speak louder than words, as the old cliche goes.

It’s important to be mindful of our behavior, especially when around our children, because they will mimic you. For instance, if you tell them to treat others with respect, but are disrespectful to service staff, they will pick up on your actions, more than your words, and are more likely to treat these same individuals poorly. Basically, behave like the person you want your child to become. Don’t rely on the whole “Do as I say and not as I do” garbage. Live your life as the respectable adult you want your child to be someday. Don’t be a hypocrite and expect your child to behave in a positive manner when you aren’t following your own rules.

None of us are perfect. We all have slip ups and bad moments, which we often regret. It’s certainly not the end of the world. In fact, it is a great learning opportunity to discuss with your children when an incident does occur. Overall, your children will watch you daily. They will observe if you are physically active like you want them to be or treat their mother properly like you want them to do. Just be the best father and human you can be and hope that your children pick up on these good habits. Remember, even though they won’t remember the first few years of their lives, you are still developing their character day by day. So, act as the person you want them to become. Have a great day everyone!