Let’s make something clear right off the bat: you are not a backup parent or a babysitter. You are the child’s father and as long as you are willing to step up, you deserve equal rights to be the parent. Neither the mom or dad should be the superior or 1st parent when it comes to the child. Both of you are equal. That being said, be a present father by being involved in all aspects of care, including diaper changes, feedings, waking up in the middle of the night, holding the child and making them feel comfortable, and going to the pediatrician appointments, just to name a few.

Yes, each parent will have their unique, individual strengths. However, that does not mean one parent should be held above the other. This is where communication with your partner is important. Decide which aspects of the care you will focus on based on your capabilities and then support your parent with her aspects of care. Do not be a backup parent because you are not that. Step up and be a father and a parent on the same level as your spouse. Fathers are important and we need to act this way.

I hope this post doesn’t sound judgmental because it is not meant to be. I just hope that none of you take a backseat when it comes to parenting because you will play a critical role in the child’s development and upbringing. Through your examples, you will show your sons how a man acts and your daughters how a man should treat them. Good luck dads and enjoy the blessings of fatherhood.