Ok, so your wife or partner is going through some changes. Does she crave strange foods or something she does not usually crave? Is she late on her period? Is she feeling some changes on the inside that she can’t explain? Well, it could be nothing, or it could something major, like being pregnant. Your partner takes a pregnancy test and a couple of minutes later, she gets the positive sign or something that indicates she is, indeed, pregnant. Even though these tests are highly accurate, she must still get official word from her OBGYN.

After all that, you find out that she is pregnant, and you are going to be a dad. A wave of emotions starts coming over you. Perhaps your heart starts racing, your mind begins to spin, and you might even feel like fainting. What should you do next? Well, take a deep breath and realize that your life will be changing soon and in a major way. However, also realize that change is not a bad thing. In fact, it can be a great thing and becoming a dad is definitely one of those moments. I admit that I always wanted kids, but it was not until my wife became pregnant that I realized how exciting it was going to be. A mini version of us would now be joining us on all of our life’s adventures.

There will be many things to do over the next several months until your baby arrives and while there is a lot that can be done in this time period, it will go by faster than you think. I realize that each person’s situation is different as far as relationship status, family dynamics, living situation, and career paths, etc. Therefore, the best thing I can tell you is to support your partner the best you can. Even if your relationship is not strong, (And I am not judging you one way or another) support each other for the sake of your baby. Come together and discuss a plan of care, like a birthing plan, what to buy, living situation, getting the necessities, setting up a room, and other important projects that need to be done. Also, set up your doctor’s appointments, do research on proper pregnancy nutrition, start getting advice from other parents whom you respect, and reach out for help. It takes a lot to get ready for a baby and even more to raise one. There is no shame in reaching out your hand and asking for assistance. Swallow your pride for the sake of your child.

In the end, just enjoy the ride and take things as they come. Yes, it is important to plan, but life comes at you fast and there is only so much you can control. Don’t be too hard on yourself and do the best you can for your partner, your baby, and yourself. That being said, your partner is going to be going through some major changes and there are times when she will have no idea what is going on with her body. Google can certainly be your friend. Also, read mom and dad blogs, reach out to friends and family, and also talk to your doctor. Most importantly, be there for your partner. Pick up extra chores around the house, make dinner for her often, tend to her food cravings, give her massages, and just be the best partner you can be. It will mean a lot to her. Remember, another life will be joining you guys who will 100% rely on your care. Be the cohesive team that he/she needs.

Finally, don’t forget to take care of yourself too. Having a baby changes things, but that doesn’t mean you have to forget all about your previous life. So, keep enjoying the things you always have. Just include your little person with you. You have the capability to handle this and all other challenges that come your way. Like I said before, take a deep breath and enjoy the ride.